Love & Zero Attachment

What is love and what is attachment??

Let’s take an example, a 5 years old baby is having class work or home work and to get the good

marks, parents are always help that baby. So is that love or attachment.

Confused, ultimate result of this scenario is baby will have two effects.

I) Baby unknowingly depends on parents and he/ she knows that some one is there in the

    back who always pools his/her up. So END OF INDEPENDENCE.

II) From the understanding or knowledge level is ZERO.

     

Any good vibrant of that scenario, I don’t think but one of the good thing is working in the

psychology I.e. ATTACHMENT.

So, is there any love? Yes, now you think your baby can write the same thing by his/her own, then as

a parent we all be happy and parents can understand the capacity of that baby. It will never happen

at a glance. It’s results of long pain taken by baby and their parents. Now, when baby is getting pain

i.e. called struggle or brainstorm to get the success. When parents are getting pain i.e. called love for

their baby.

As a result that baby will become independent and self motivated as well as solutions oriented and

now just think if this vibrant in the baby psychology then the future will be always experimenting

and solutions oriented.

Then what is attachment and what creates a different an attachment from the love. If we have pets

in our house after some times we have a attachment with that pet.

One of the famous words “I miss you” , what does it’s actually means is that a love or attachment. If

we stay with some one or something means living or a no living element we are attached with that.

Then what is love??

Love will never be less or more by leaving attached elements. Mother’s love will never less or more if

her children is far from them. If children is having worse time parents always cry not to do show off

but it’s real and when they will succeed, parents will happy and speech less. I believe this called a

actual love.

Now a question is coming in our mind is love is only belongs to parents and children.

Answer is not really.

Love is unconditional, it’s emotional. Love will never measure. In a very deep level we neither feel

the love physically nor by express. It’s deep with in which makes you blank in your mind. A closeness

which makes us happy.

Conclusion: Love is unconditional feelings where as attachment is a physical feeling. So if we are

attached with some one we will scared to loose that and that is the attachment not love. In love

physical existence doesn’t matter. If your love is close to you that’s good but if not it will make us

happy or sad based on what your love is feeling.

Anger Control

Good morning………. good afternoon …………good evening …………

Today I have decided to talk regarding Anger, which means why we used to get angry.

I can say angry is okay but problem is the reaction of that anger.

Now 2 points are coming out in this discussion

1. Reasons of anger: What is the reason of getting angry? Questioning against your belief,

                                  creates anger.

You believe on something, and when someone directly come and asking something against

of that or very simple example is that when you are in hurry, driving at the same time and

suddenly you are in a traffic jam due to some reason. You will be very angry or

disappointed.

So in that case, anger is normal, but is reaction really important in that ? . So angers used to

come based on something stopping you from what you believe or from what you want.

In a family it’s quite a normal situation where two thoughts are not matching and anger

comes between those two. If you went through that situation then just sit and think, you

may see that you are not actually fighting, you are discussing about a concept where

thoughts or believes are conflicting.

Conclusion: Sit quietly and think, anger is always a conflict of 2 thoughts or believe.

2. Instant Control of Anger:

“STOP, WHY??, is it really required”

To do instant control of anger this few words are required to asks oneself. It will help you to

switch your mind from unconscious to conscious state.

You may think it’s quite difficult while someone is saying something against you or your

beliefs but let me tell you IT’S A PRACTICE. If you can stop yourself at least 1or 2 times in

your journey of anger, You will feel better.

Now let me tell you the secret of this situation, just imagine some one is very angry on you

and express his/her anger in different ways and your reaction is a smile….. What’s going to

happen. Don’t you think it’s the best way to express your anger.

Conclusion: you are angry when something against your beliefs or the thoughts which you are

holding for a longtime and most importantly it’s directly coming to you. Because indirect situations

may affect you not in the high level. To stop that instant reaction we have to say “STOP”. This will

help you to become conscious and then reaction will be justified.